Questions to ask when Choosing a Wedding Officiant

Choosing your wedding officiant (priest, rabbi, minister, judge, clerk, justice of the peace etc) is an important task, as (s)he often sets the whole tone of the ceremony.  His/her values and style should complement your own.  Obviously some of these questions won’t be relevant if you’re going with the priest at your parish or the rabbi at your synagogue.  Look online for reviews (EasyEventPlanning.com may have reviews of officiants in your area).  Here are a few questions to help you find just the right officiant to preside over your special day:

1.    How many ceremonies have you presided over?
2.    Are you licensed to perform ceremonies in the state of __________?
3.    What made you become a (justice of the peace, minister, etc)?
4.    Have you had professional training?
5.    How many ceremonies do you typically handle in the same day?
6.    How many other ceremonies do you have already scheduled on my wedding day?
7.    Will you be the one personally presiding over my ceremony?
8.    How much time do you need before the ceremony (for set up)?
9.    What types of creative touches can you add to the ceremony?
10.    Can you describe a typical ceremony?
11.    Do you intend to give a sermon/speech?  Will we have an opportunity to review that content ahead of time?
12.    What is your personal philosophy on wedding ceremonies?
13.    What is involved in planning the ceremony? (number of meetings, decisions needed, etc)
14.    Do you have any restrictions on music selections, musicians, readings or traditions?
15.    Can I write my own vows?
16.    Do you require a marriage preparation course? 
17.    Would you be able to attend the reception?  If so, would you be willing to give a blessing?
18.    Do you have a website?
19.    Do you have video footage from some of your past ceremonies?
20.    Can I speak with the last 3 or 4 people whose ceremonies you presided over?
21.    Do you provide a back-up in the event of an emergency? If so, who will it likely be?
22.    What do you charge?
23.    Are there additional fees for travel or customization?
24.    When do we take care of payment?
25.    What is your cancelation policy?
26.    Why would you be the best choice for me?
27.    Can I have your cell phone number?  Are you able to receive email messages on your phone?
28.    How quickly can I expect a response to an email or voicemail during my planning process?

Qualities that may be important to you:  His/her:

•    Speaking/writing abilities
•    Flexibility
•    Voice (is it soothing)?
•    Interest in getting to know you (to make the ceremony more personal)
•    Unconventional personality
•    Ability to communicate